familiesammenforing Age difference

[mara]

God dag

Sorry for writing in English.I am only starting learning Danish by myself so I better use English.My name is Marina and I am married to a danish man since last summer.Now we are in the process of familiesammenforing for several months already.I know all the info from nyidanmark.dk almost by heart And I was trying to read your forum especially actual for me topics..But of course I understand danish only little even with the help of dictionaries.


We know each other for 3 years My husband has visited me in Belarus for 8 times staying sometimes for a month and O also visited Denmark last summer and stayed there for 2 months

My main question/is age difference between spouses really very important*ours is 16 years* And if even ALL other requements are met,can be that difference be the ground for resusal

Mange tak for possible replies

Best wishes

Marina

[fundiver198]

A large age difference is not in itself a reason for rejecting you the right to a family reunion in Denmark. However, for some idiotic reason, that I can not explain, the danish government believe, that people are unlikely to fall in love with someone more than 8-10 years below or above their own age.

They will therefore automatically assume, that there is extra reason to believe, that your marriage is a so called "pro-forma marriage", i.e. a marriage that only has the purpose of getting you into Danmark. Where you are alledgedly going to work illegally as a prostitute, eat small children or whatever nonsens, they can think of.

And it is YOU, not them, who have the burden of proof, that this is not the case. You therefore need to go to extra length to prove, that you really know each other and are married "for real". Which can be done by giving copies of phone bills, pictures taken of you together, airtickets, hotel bills and whatever else, you can think of, to the ironically named government office "Udlændingeservice" (foreigner service).

Even if you do all that, you should still expect, that Udlændingeservice will spend up to 7 month to treat your case, since your case will be put in the "not obvious cases" pile, which basically means, that their "service target" is 7 month instead of 3 month. In other words, your case will be given a lower priority and spend a lot more time gathering dust on a table, simply because you are 16 years younger than your husband.

[mara]

Thank you very much for a quick reply

I do realize that its our task to prove them that we are in long term real relations for 3 years and married for almost one year and we are ready to do it My husband wrote in his application that he is ready to show all the proofs The greatest problem that they do not ask for anything and whenever he calls them the reply is short and always the same WE ARE WORKING ON YR CASE He is going to call them next Tuesday and ask again if we can attach tickets copies of all those visas pictures

We are waiting for 3 and half month already and I do understand we probabbly will wait twice longer but the main thing that they would not refuse us as my husband says they shouldnt explain the reason

[BlueFoxx]

Hi Mara,

I sure hope you wont have to much problems with FS. you case seems to me like its one of those what should be processed in weeks only. but because of the age difference it just need to take longer.
my wife and i have the exactly the same age difference as you and your husband. so if your not allowed to stay i guess i would have to start packing...

I hope you will have the FS stay here as u rightfully should have if i was to deside!!

Best of luck from here!

[mara]

2 Blue Fox

Thank you very much for supporting reply,well good that our case seems clear and obvious to somebody else besides me and my husband and all numerous people who knows us and our story.

I do hope people from FS will be as attentive and positive towards us.As we do all that is recommended and required.f e after our wedding I left Denmark and applied from my home country though I know some people apply from DK after wedding.Of course it is not easy to be apart for a long time from the spouse but it is a law and we are to obey it no matter like we or dislike it.

Well all in all if we could be together for 3 years already we will survive some more months of waiting.Though it would really be great to hear at least smth from FS except their standard replies


With my best wishes for everybody,

Mara